Changes, Life & Gardening

Magnolia bloom

I was so pleased to see the magnolia in bloom. The beautiful scent of the magnolia is unforgettable.


We planted a garden this year but kept it smaller. We planted cherry tomatoes, squash, lettuce, peppers, cucumbers & put the lemon tree I grew from seed in the middle of the garden.  It has really taken off.  We decided not to plant the last avocado in the ground this year since we had a few of them didn’t make it through the crisp frost of winter. We kept one I grew from seed in a pot which it is thriving. Spend time with loved ones, no excuses, take time for meditation & nature always.


Life can change as you know it in an instant.  Health is a luxury.  Since major surgery last year and life altering events with left carotid artery blow out in February 2015 taken by ambulance to the hospital, two weeks later developed an infection put me in hospital again, the last surprise was I had the titanium  screw and bolt that was used to put my chin back together come through my chin, so I had to have this surgically removed.

Life has changed as I knew it.  I cannot speak well currently nor eat regular foods and recently had a PICC line put in my arm so I can get infused antibiotics daily for 6 to 8 weeks due to an infection in my jawbone and neck.

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I have my faithful loving friends & family & husband, I have relied on to take me to my appointments. I love you for your company & help. ♡♡♡ I am grateful & blessed. ♡

In life don’t take anything forgranted. Gratitude and love is the only thing that matters. I am cancer free but as most with this type of cancer we have to deal with the repercussions of surgery, radiation and chemo.

Oral cancer is no joke, if you have a small pin point of a sore in your mouth or any changes in your throat ir mouth that is painless don’t take it lightly. Make sure you get your mouth checked out each time you go to your dentist and if your dentist tells you to see an ENT make sure it is an Oncology ENT.

Take time to get out in nature.  It is good for the soul. Love and peace always. Happy Gardening til next time~♡♡♡♡♡♡



New Adventures in Life and Love & Gardening~

tree of lifeHappy 60th Birthday to my Love~ Wow where did the time go? ScannedImage-2.1compassionflowerlove herehealing

Garden Alert for Composting:

We have our fall garden in the ground now and are looking forward to the yield it brings with time and patience. We enjoyed going to the Master Gardeners show and picking out a couple of plants to go in the yard. It was a cloudy day but we got there early and made our pick of plants. I liked the unusual black elephant ear, as well as some other plants. Cute Veggies!master gardner plant sale 2014 2 veggies

Memories of our summer garden. cukes

Natural Painkillers.
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New adventures in Life and Love and Gardening. We are to embark on our newest adventure family vacation with our son’s family and daughters family. I am not in the best optimal health shape currently but as we know a health crisis can come and knock your socks off and change your world without you realizing it until later. I am grateful to be on the road to recovery, but it is and has been a long and hard road.  Health is Wealth is an understatement. I found out today that a person I met through an online support cancer group who is only in her 40s is going into hospice care now. It breaks my heart for her lovely family, as we talked via email and we were always so supportive of each other. She is a lovely person and exudes love all around. Life as you know can change on a dime or an instant it doesn’t matter how pretty you are or how much money you have or make, or what church or synagogue you belong to or what political party you are, it doesn’t matter a bit and it makes you realize and become mindful of what is important. You change your priorities and decide on what is important enough to react to expend energy.  The things that you may have found time for before you have no use for them now as they have served its purpose. When you have less time to waste as we all do when we age, you choose kindness over righteousness any day. If we all took time to look into each other eyes with gratitude I think our world would be more peaceful. We all have a time limit so be careful what you spend your time on. Time and health are priceless.

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We all have a number that will be up we just never know when it will be our time, only out maker knows for sure. You look at loved ones, family and friends with much gratitude. Life as you know changes forever. Transition to life and experiencing every moment there is with your loved ones in daily gratitude practiced is important and always available if you do it daily in mediation or in prayer you live in that moment. We aren’t given this life forever. When a health crisis that is life altering experience happens to find you, you will truly find out who the supportive ones are. You realize when you have something like this come into your own family that nothing is more important than Love only love and time filled with gratitude for your loved ones that the little things are the big things and there is no time for childish behavior or hatred or jealousy

My avocado trees that I planted from seed I am pleased to say are doing well.  I have a couple in pots and some I have planted in the ground already.

I was excited to see that my lemon trees to the left of photo that I grew from seed will be ready to go in the ground soon.  Love the earth and planting it will love you back.  avocado

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A fun October Veggie tray idea! october veggie

So grow your garden carefully fill it with love, kindness and joy.
Granddaughter with quilt I made and daughter with quilt her great-grandmother made. sweet grandaughter on quilt i Madesarah quilt

I was so happy to see that my newest granddaughter loved her homemade quilt that I made her as her mother had enjoyed the quilt her great-grandmother had made her when she was little. Life Cycle as we know it always in cycle with love. I am grateful for my loved ones who have been there to help us through this journey back to health. With much love~ Happy Gardening til Next time~ with much prayers and love to others on this same journey~God Speed~

If you see or feel a lump bump or bruise that isn’t supposed to be there please go to your doctor and get it checked out. With Oral Cancer there are no symptoms until sometimes it is too late. So please make sure when you get your dentist checkup have them do the six step screening process.

I get by with a little help from my friends

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Happy Gardening til Next Time~angels

Fall Planting Brings Joy~✿¸.•*¨`*•..¸ƸӜƷ

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Fall planting is here as this weekend my husband I enjoyed the beautiful weather and went to the local Virginia Beach Farmers Market to finish up our fall gardening. We picked out Kale, Spinach, Oriental Greens, and Chard and Romaine lettuce.
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Link on composting:

Best plants for companion planting from healthy sustainable living blogspot:
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A list of cold hardy plants for fall gardening:
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It is never to late to start composting and to try new veggies go to the freeze zone chart for your area:

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Take time to plant, to sow, to rest, to smell the flowers and most of all live and enjoy and rejoice in what you love~

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Happy Gardening~Til Next Time~


✿⊰Fall Garden Planting & 20th Wedding Anniversary Chemo⊱✿

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This past weekend was a joy to be able to go with my best friend and husband of 20 years to pick out our fall garden at the local feed and seed place we love. I always feel like a child at Christmas around my gardening plants, it is so exciting to pick out what we know will grow and flourish and is so good for our health and bodies for nutrition. We picked out Kale, Collards, cauliflower, Broccoli, Beets, Cucumber, Yellow Squash, and something new Pak Choi a Gourmet Oriental Green we hadn’t tried yet. It is good to shake things up and try different veggies to see how they do. My hubby had tilled up the fall garden as we had been adding our regular compost in our compost barrel.
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The best vitamix drink of today was spinach and green delicious apples. My fruit one I will share with you was honeydew melon and apple juice, we had frozen the honeydew melon so it was very tasty with the coolness of a fruit smoothie. Broccoli Soup and cheddar cheese and milk is delicious in the vitamix it can rival the best restaurants and as you mix it in your vitamix it heats up.
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We heard one of the dogs barking the other night so my husband went out to find a possum walking and balancing on the top of our privacy fence. Now we have to come up with another way to protect our garden besides the chicken wire fencing around it, some wild animal deterrent, but our dogs just may be it. It is always a challenge but well worth it. We have water and trees near us so it isn’t unusual to find wild creatures now and then, but they usually move on with time.
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We have our 20th Anniversary on Tuesday. Happy Anniversary Honey! We wanted to do something a little more special on our anniversary than going to my first precautionary chemo appointment! As in life you have to just roll with it sometimes! We would do it all over again both of us have agreed to everything that has happened with one exception & would have left the cancer part out of it. It just made us know how precious we are to each other but we knew that anyway. Cancer changes you, you can never go back to who you once were you take things more mellow and only allow what you want into your life to come in. Light, Love and positiveness always. You have to remain in laughter and joy no matter what you go through. Humor is an important part of life always. Life is cherished each and every part of it.

My husband is my best friend and lover that I have known since we were really young, knowing each other for 56 years this year. We grew up in the same childhood neighborhood he was 4 and I was 2 when we met, we also left the area at the same time. I don’t believe in coincidence any longer I believe in meant to be. Both our fathers were in the Navy, we went to the same schools grew up in the same era and had the best music in our time, we knew the same people. Him being a musician and me a flower child. We went on our own way as life has it and then reunited many years later to the prompting of my daughter as me being a single working mom. We reunited and it was magic we never parted after that one meeting it was fate as we knew it.
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So my love is taking me to my first chemo and will sit by my side again as he has over the years we have shared everything our jokes, our children, our love, our fun our laughter, most of all respect and truely liking each other. We have honestly never said a cruel word about each other, but on rare occasion we will have our tiff but they were short-lived since we know that love ♥ is the only way and through this it gives us both strength.
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This is just a blip in our journey together we have a long way to go and things to do and places to see and grandkids to love. I am such a lucky girl to have him he is loyal, loving, respectful, and cherished and just overall a good and honest & loving person. If you haven’t met your special someone you will when you least expect it. Keep your ears and eyes open to the universe it will happen all you have to be is open to it and pay attention love~•♥•°*”.
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Looking forward to meeting at Folly Beach with our immediate family our daughter and son in law and their 2 children and our son and daughter in law and 3 children. Family time in a beautiful place~
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Happy Grandparents Day today~✿*•.¸♥¸.•*° ☼*✿¸.•*¨`*•..¸
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Grow your Garden with love~♥♥♥
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Happy Gardening Til Next Time ~☮.ılı.♥.ılı.☮ ☼ ☼ ☼ ✿ ✿ ✿
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☮ ❤ ☼Reflection of yesterdays photos show•..•ᏝᎧᏉᏋ*¨*.¸¸.*¨`*.✫*¨*.¸❤

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It seemed as life had been just right as the photos reflect a time of love for these were the days before the baby car seats as we know it today.  But children survived and thrived with the love that they received from us.  Just like we did in our generation with our lead painted cribs and houses, and asbestos sided homes and floors as our parents smoked.  If you were born in the 70s or early 80s you had plastic little car carriers which had one plastic seat belt across and one in between the legs and it sat right in the stroller. It was rather flimsy.  If we went in the car to go anywhere it sat on the floor when we drove and it had a metal brace that it sat up on in the back.  I know they would not be up to any standard of safety today.  We had the walkers with the wheels on them which helped both my children walk at an earlier age, now they don’t have the wheels on the walkers any longer.  My daughter was to use my old high chair that the Germans made for me in Germany where I was born at an US Navy hospital, which was passed down from my mother to me, as some items were since we were young and tried to save money on hand-me-downs.  I remember shopping at a used baby shop that I would walk to on a regular basis 36 years ago and buying practically new baby items for my daughter at a discount price. It wasn’t until later the prices went up as these shops started to become more popular. 

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Technology showed up with new ideas or studies that show….etc. The fact is that you were all loved and we all lived through it.  Life as we knew it back then.  Sometimes a photograph will take you right back to time era and you will remember what you were doing and everything.  Like a time passage or like Ringo Stars song photograph it sometimes makes you melancholy to see what has passed but you keep those in your heart where the love is it always shines outward and has been passed to your children as they will now shine on for their own children. The wooden high chair had no seat belt on it as it was so I would put a cushion on the seat of it and sometimes a tie around my daughter’s waist, not todays standards either, but it was definitely old school and sometimes I had to put a piece of cardboard under one leg to keep it from tilting.  Most of all we all were learning as time went on.  What did we learn? In the days of raising my children there wasn’t really technology except for when they got to be preteens then we had a big old computer screen that would dial-up and you would wait and wait…and hear the familiar buzz once it made connection and the screen was green.   We used to do what is now the old-fashioned fun mainly outdoors in nature and spending a lot of time in it and it always gave me peace it made my babies ready for a nap when I would walk them outside at a park or I would carry them over my shoulders since we didn’t have the back pack. Business of trading playing cards was carried on between my son and the local boys in the neighborhood or his matchbox cars he liked to play on the driveway with and pretend that the gutter cement guard was the car crusher.  My daughter with her cheering practice out front or sleep overs and the dancing and singing and role-playing.  You all had wonder, reflection and thought and imagination which came with chasing the lightning bugs at night with the open jars with holes on the lid or catching a butterfly with a net or digging outside in the ground with a spoon to help me plant a new plant or a new garden with vegetables was fun. Using a metal bowl with blocks as entertainment as a baby.  We washed our babies in our sinks, and if the babies were teething we did as our grandmothers had done for us if their was some whiskey or alcohol in the house we would rub that on your gums to numb the pain, old school remedies. Making our own baby food was a regular thing to do.  We knew what time we put into you is what we would get out. Family dinner time every night and a regular bedtime helped establish stability.

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Having to be called in at night for dinner since you were outside playing was a regular event which I am glad to say this is something you got to experience. You played outside as your parents generation did playing freeze tag, duck, duck, goose, hopscotch, green light, mother may I and all the imaginative games. We knew where you were outside participating and learning how to be a team player and how to talk to people who in any society is important and an important asset as an adult.  I am glad you were raised in your generation it gave you opportunity and confidence and most of all social skills.  I hope these games are passed down by parents today or it will be a lost art of actual  playing and participating which would be  a shame since they do so much for children.  All the important things of life were learned on the play ground or out playing with friends. Role playing and the many plays you would put on for the family with your funny imagination and each of you so unique and different and endearing. It showed me your own personalities which I loved.  My son was the comedic one always he found his niche in making us laugh non stop as well as very organized and precise on what he wanted to do.  My daughter was the director she would set things up and do the logistics.  It is funny they learned they were good at these skills at an early age and they have well tuned them into their careers as adults.  The funny thing is if you expect the best out of your children and give them opportunity they will do the best they can with phrase of course to please you and in fact they end up pleasing themselves with confidence well learned.  Can’t was not part of our vocabulary only because my dad being an old Navy Dad said there is no such word as can’t.  You have to always try in life. Never give up and if you cannot do it, try again a different way.  This was a good thing to always pass down no matter how many times I heard and sometimes their frustration,  that word I gave them the opportunity to try again or another way.  They did and learned with phrase and love and the power of a word. It was not a chore to mow the grass you had to be tall enough and maybe I would let you and when you did it didn’t matter if  some places were missed you tried and learned and were proud of your accomplishment. It was over time you found you perfected your lawn mowing as you did your confidence.

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Happy Gardening Til Next Time~ᏝᎧᏉᏋ*¨*.¸¸.*¨`*.✫*¨*.¸❤


**Secret Ingredient & Simple Pleasures***


Fathers day came and went and I missed writing about it. I have a new beautiful granddaughter born this month that I am very grateful for. She is perfect in all ways! We are so proud of our daughter and her family.  I am very honored for them to pick my middle name as hers as I have a namesake now.    I hope all the fathers had the most happiest fathers day past. I know my son-in-law did by having a new baby girl that weekend.  Our daughter and son in law family is now complete she has a perfect little boy and little baby girl. 


Slow down, funny the things we did before I went in for surgery like tending to the garden adding the Secret Ingredient the Black Kow manure to our garden, not really knowing how secret this ingredient would do. Our garden has taken off and it is the best it has ever been.  Unfortunately I cannot eat it, but those that have been helping me through this surgery and recovery have been able to benefit and I am grateful for that. My husband is eating a salad every night, so again I am grateful for that as well, as he wasn’t always a salad eater.  I was the salad eater the mower of the lawns, the garden tender, the dog washer, the house cleaner, the bill payer.  We all have worn different hats when we had to and some of us define ourselves by what we do instead of who we are. Sometimes we just have to be here and dance.  I have to be patient with myself now and forced to slow down since everything came to a halt a time to heal. 


 My hard working husband has been by my side on through all this when he comes home he has to tend to me and he lets me know it will be alright, I am getting stronger daily and giving myself little task to accomplish daily. He is my rock, my best friend, my soul mate, who makes my life easier just being.  I told him I think I have already cashed in my through sickness part.  He stays with me and keeps me strong as he says again we will get through this as we do daily.  I love my friends and family that have stood by our side to offer help and companionship as we get through this hurdle.  I had a major surgery and am still in recoup mode for a few months.  I was in ICU for 5 days and then step down for about 4 days.  You really gain a different perspective when you are faced with a life threathening illness or major surgery, but trust in your doctors and God to help you through along with friends, family and loved ones and are filled with love and gratitude. 


Life is so fragile and lovely it is important to appreciate the small and simple times for those are the things that you look back on when you aren’t able to do them and it really makes you yearn for those times again.   I am working towards the goals just healing for now and letting swelling go down, and eventually will enjoy the simple pleasures like sipping a glass of water, or being able to breath through my nose again or go outside.  The things that I can see through the glass window now and with gratitude and appreciation I adore, the simple sun set or sun rise, the garden in the morning with the dew on the leaves, the dogs running in the yard the new flower of bloom or the crop that has been yielded that day as my husband proudly brings it in to me to cherish.  


 I am just grateful to be here and to live on this wonderful earth with my loved ones and friends and animals.  Our rescue dog, Peanut  is wondering what is up with mom, so my husband has been throwing the frisbee for him so he doesn’t get depressed.  Funny how animals can tell when something is up.  They are by my side giving me their unconditional love.  So how does your garden grow? Is it filled with your authentic self for their is truely no time to be anyone else but you. Those that love you will love you through it all and you have no need to impress anyone it is a waste of time.  Image

Time is a stealer so make sure the moments you spend are how you want to spend them giving back to those you love in time and effort is never a waste for it comes around seven fold.  I am blessed I was able to give to my friends and loved ones at one time or another my time or effort and this is just who I am and will be again, and they are this way too. I am so grateful to have so many people in my corner saying those prayers sending those good wishes and love in my direction.   I appreciate all the cards, and flowers, and love. I can feel those prayers, it gives me strength. 


Life is too short to worry, or stress or ponder over things you cannot change, but life is there for you to enjoy this very moment you are in and don’t worry about the past or the future just be here now.  These are the simple pleasures the here and now and really taking it in.  Time to always move forward never back ward.  Life is full of wonderful surprises and we all should take the time to appreciate them and take them in.  Secret ingredients and simple pleasures~


~Happy Gardening Til Next Time~ *Love~

Look deep into nature, then you will understand everything better.  Albert Einstein~