New Adventures in Life and Love & Gardening~

tree of lifeHappy 60th Birthday to my Love~ Wow where did the time go? ScannedImage-2.1compassionflowerlove herehealing

Garden Alert for Composting:

We have our fall garden in the ground now and are looking forward to the yield it brings with time and patience. We enjoyed going to the Master Gardeners show and picking out a couple of plants to go in the yard. It was a cloudy day but we got there early and made our pick of plants. I liked the unusual black elephant ear, as well as some other plants. Cute Veggies!master gardner plant sale 2014 2 veggies

Memories of our summer garden. cukes

Natural Painkillers.
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New adventures in Life and Love and Gardening. We are to embark on our newest adventure family vacation with our son’s family and daughters family. I am not in the best optimal health shape currently but as we know a health crisis can come and knock your socks off and change your world without you realizing it until later. I am grateful to be on the road to recovery, but it is and has been a long and hard road.  Health is Wealth is an understatement. I found out today that a person I met through an online support cancer group who is only in her 40s is going into hospice care now. It breaks my heart for her lovely family, as we talked via email and we were always so supportive of each other. She is a lovely person and exudes love all around. Life as you know can change on a dime or an instant it doesn’t matter how pretty you are or how much money you have or make, or what church or synagogue you belong to or what political party you are, it doesn’t matter a bit and it makes you realize and become mindful of what is important. You change your priorities and decide on what is important enough to react to expend energy.  The things that you may have found time for before you have no use for them now as they have served its purpose. When you have less time to waste as we all do when we age, you choose kindness over righteousness any day. If we all took time to look into each other eyes with gratitude I think our world would be more peaceful. We all have a time limit so be careful what you spend your time on. Time and health are priceless.

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We all have a number that will be up we just never know when it will be our time, only out maker knows for sure. You look at loved ones, family and friends with much gratitude. Life as you know changes forever. Transition to life and experiencing every moment there is with your loved ones in daily gratitude practiced is important and always available if you do it daily in mediation or in prayer you live in that moment. We aren’t given this life forever. When a health crisis that is life altering experience happens to find you, you will truly find out who the supportive ones are. You realize when you have something like this come into your own family that nothing is more important than Love only love and time filled with gratitude for your loved ones that the little things are the big things and there is no time for childish behavior or hatred or jealousy

My avocado trees that I planted from seed I am pleased to say are doing well.  I have a couple in pots and some I have planted in the ground already.

I was excited to see that my lemon trees to the left of photo that I grew from seed will be ready to go in the ground soon.  Love the earth and planting it will love you back.  avocado

lemon trees

A fun October Veggie tray idea! october veggie

So grow your garden carefully fill it with love, kindness and joy.
Granddaughter with quilt I made and daughter with quilt her great-grandmother made. sweet grandaughter on quilt i Madesarah quilt

I was so happy to see that my newest granddaughter loved her homemade quilt that I made her as her mother had enjoyed the quilt her great-grandmother had made her when she was little. Life Cycle as we know it always in cycle with love. I am grateful for my loved ones who have been there to help us through this journey back to health. With much love~ Happy Gardening til Next time~ with much prayers and love to others on this same journey~God Speed~

If you see or feel a lump bump or bruise that isn’t supposed to be there please go to your doctor and get it checked out. With Oral Cancer there are no symptoms until sometimes it is too late. So please make sure when you get your dentist checkup have them do the six step screening process.

I get by with a little help from my friends

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Happy Gardening til Next Time~angels


✿⊰Fall Garden Planting & 20th Wedding Anniversary Chemo⊱✿

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This past weekend was a joy to be able to go with my best friend and husband of 20 years to pick out our fall garden at the local feed and seed place we love. I always feel like a child at Christmas around my gardening plants, it is so exciting to pick out what we know will grow and flourish and is so good for our health and bodies for nutrition. We picked out Kale, Collards, cauliflower, Broccoli, Beets, Cucumber, Yellow Squash, and something new Pak Choi a Gourmet Oriental Green we hadn’t tried yet. It is good to shake things up and try different veggies to see how they do. My hubby had tilled up the fall garden as we had been adding our regular compost in our compost barrel.
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The best vitamix drink of today was spinach and green delicious apples. My fruit one I will share with you was honeydew melon and apple juice, we had frozen the honeydew melon so it was very tasty with the coolness of a fruit smoothie. Broccoli Soup and cheddar cheese and milk is delicious in the vitamix it can rival the best restaurants and as you mix it in your vitamix it heats up.
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We heard one of the dogs barking the other night so my husband went out to find a possum walking and balancing on the top of our privacy fence. Now we have to come up with another way to protect our garden besides the chicken wire fencing around it, some wild animal deterrent, but our dogs just may be it. It is always a challenge but well worth it. We have water and trees near us so it isn’t unusual to find wild creatures now and then, but they usually move on with time.
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We have our 20th Anniversary on Tuesday. Happy Anniversary Honey! We wanted to do something a little more special on our anniversary than going to my first precautionary chemo appointment! As in life you have to just roll with it sometimes! We would do it all over again both of us have agreed to everything that has happened with one exception & would have left the cancer part out of it. It just made us know how precious we are to each other but we knew that anyway. Cancer changes you, you can never go back to who you once were you take things more mellow and only allow what you want into your life to come in. Light, Love and positiveness always. You have to remain in laughter and joy no matter what you go through. Humor is an important part of life always. Life is cherished each and every part of it.

My husband is my best friend and lover that I have known since we were really young, knowing each other for 56 years this year. We grew up in the same childhood neighborhood he was 4 and I was 2 when we met, we also left the area at the same time. I don’t believe in coincidence any longer I believe in meant to be. Both our fathers were in the Navy, we went to the same schools grew up in the same era and had the best music in our time, we knew the same people. Him being a musician and me a flower child. We went on our own way as life has it and then reunited many years later to the prompting of my daughter as me being a single working mom. We reunited and it was magic we never parted after that one meeting it was fate as we knew it.
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So my love is taking me to my first chemo and will sit by my side again as he has over the years we have shared everything our jokes, our children, our love, our fun our laughter, most of all respect and truely liking each other. We have honestly never said a cruel word about each other, but on rare occasion we will have our tiff but they were short-lived since we know that love ♥ is the only way and through this it gives us both strength.
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This is just a blip in our journey together we have a long way to go and things to do and places to see and grandkids to love. I am such a lucky girl to have him he is loyal, loving, respectful, and cherished and just overall a good and honest & loving person. If you haven’t met your special someone you will when you least expect it. Keep your ears and eyes open to the universe it will happen all you have to be is open to it and pay attention love~•♥•°*”.
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Looking forward to meeting at Folly Beach with our immediate family our daughter and son in law and their 2 children and our son and daughter in law and 3 children. Family time in a beautiful place~
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Happy Grandparents Day today~✿*•.¸♥¸.•*° ☼*✿¸.•*¨`*•..¸
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Grow your Garden with love~♥♥♥
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It seemed as life had been just right as the photos reflect a time of love for these were the days before the baby car seats as we know it today.  But children survived and thrived with the love that they received from us.  Just like we did in our generation with our lead painted cribs and houses, and asbestos sided homes and floors as our parents smoked.  If you were born in the 70s or early 80s you had plastic little car carriers which had one plastic seat belt across and one in between the legs and it sat right in the stroller. It was rather flimsy.  If we went in the car to go anywhere it sat on the floor when we drove and it had a metal brace that it sat up on in the back.  I know they would not be up to any standard of safety today.  We had the walkers with the wheels on them which helped both my children walk at an earlier age, now they don’t have the wheels on the walkers any longer.  My daughter was to use my old high chair that the Germans made for me in Germany where I was born at an US Navy hospital, which was passed down from my mother to me, as some items were since we were young and tried to save money on hand-me-downs.  I remember shopping at a used baby shop that I would walk to on a regular basis 36 years ago and buying practically new baby items for my daughter at a discount price. It wasn’t until later the prices went up as these shops started to become more popular. 

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Technology showed up with new ideas or studies that show….etc. The fact is that you were all loved and we all lived through it.  Life as we knew it back then.  Sometimes a photograph will take you right back to time era and you will remember what you were doing and everything.  Like a time passage or like Ringo Stars song photograph it sometimes makes you melancholy to see what has passed but you keep those in your heart where the love is it always shines outward and has been passed to your children as they will now shine on for their own children. The wooden high chair had no seat belt on it as it was so I would put a cushion on the seat of it and sometimes a tie around my daughter’s waist, not todays standards either, but it was definitely old school and sometimes I had to put a piece of cardboard under one leg to keep it from tilting.  Most of all we all were learning as time went on.  What did we learn? In the days of raising my children there wasn’t really technology except for when they got to be preteens then we had a big old computer screen that would dial-up and you would wait and wait…and hear the familiar buzz once it made connection and the screen was green.   We used to do what is now the old-fashioned fun mainly outdoors in nature and spending a lot of time in it and it always gave me peace it made my babies ready for a nap when I would walk them outside at a park or I would carry them over my shoulders since we didn’t have the back pack. Business of trading playing cards was carried on between my son and the local boys in the neighborhood or his matchbox cars he liked to play on the driveway with and pretend that the gutter cement guard was the car crusher.  My daughter with her cheering practice out front or sleep overs and the dancing and singing and role-playing.  You all had wonder, reflection and thought and imagination which came with chasing the lightning bugs at night with the open jars with holes on the lid or catching a butterfly with a net or digging outside in the ground with a spoon to help me plant a new plant or a new garden with vegetables was fun. Using a metal bowl with blocks as entertainment as a baby.  We washed our babies in our sinks, and if the babies were teething we did as our grandmothers had done for us if their was some whiskey or alcohol in the house we would rub that on your gums to numb the pain, old school remedies. Making our own baby food was a regular thing to do.  We knew what time we put into you is what we would get out. Family dinner time every night and a regular bedtime helped establish stability.

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Having to be called in at night for dinner since you were outside playing was a regular event which I am glad to say this is something you got to experience. You played outside as your parents generation did playing freeze tag, duck, duck, goose, hopscotch, green light, mother may I and all the imaginative games. We knew where you were outside participating and learning how to be a team player and how to talk to people who in any society is important and an important asset as an adult.  I am glad you were raised in your generation it gave you opportunity and confidence and most of all social skills.  I hope these games are passed down by parents today or it will be a lost art of actual  playing and participating which would be  a shame since they do so much for children.  All the important things of life were learned on the play ground or out playing with friends. Role playing and the many plays you would put on for the family with your funny imagination and each of you so unique and different and endearing. It showed me your own personalities which I loved.  My son was the comedic one always he found his niche in making us laugh non stop as well as very organized and precise on what he wanted to do.  My daughter was the director she would set things up and do the logistics.  It is funny they learned they were good at these skills at an early age and they have well tuned them into their careers as adults.  The funny thing is if you expect the best out of your children and give them opportunity they will do the best they can with phrase of course to please you and in fact they end up pleasing themselves with confidence well learned.  Can’t was not part of our vocabulary only because my dad being an old Navy Dad said there is no such word as can’t.  You have to always try in life. Never give up and if you cannot do it, try again a different way.  This was a good thing to always pass down no matter how many times I heard and sometimes their frustration,  that word I gave them the opportunity to try again or another way.  They did and learned with phrase and love and the power of a word. It was not a chore to mow the grass you had to be tall enough and maybe I would let you and when you did it didn’t matter if  some places were missed you tried and learned and were proud of your accomplishment. It was over time you found you perfected your lawn mowing as you did your confidence.

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Happy Gardening Til Next Time~ᏝᎧᏉᏋ*¨*.¸¸.*¨`*.✫*¨*.¸❤


Nourishing❀❀❀Enrichment ❀❀Revelation❀❀❀

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Nourishment to the Body or the Soul is a wonderful feeling of fullness.  It gives us strength and energy to go on and accomplish goals it feeds us through mind and spirit.   Enrichment is the development of something meaningful as in acting upon something you love or something you have done and you are enriched for the better by doing this.  Revelation is an act of revealing or disclosing and this may develop over time.  It has been an eventful week and month of August.  Our garden is getting ready to end its summer cycle and almost time for fall planting.  As we were very fortunate to have the benefit of a wonderful harvest this summer full of squash, cucumbers, peppers, chard, kale, spinach, lettuce and tomatoes, as well as many other vegetables.  Eating healthy has been a way of life for us for sometime as garden growers.  Next weekend we will start to prepare the soil again for our fall garden with the wonderful vegetables of green.  They are always delicious steamed or cooked on the grill or put in smoothies which as been my mainstay lately.

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Funny how you can be blessed with much but sometimes you are not able to enjoy in as in physical but you can enjoy it spiritually.  This is how I felt as I wasn’t able to enjoy the abundance that was put on our plate, but I was spiritually full.  I got to enjoy the color, the texture, and the smell of these beautiful vegetables and fruits but not the taste.  Sometimes in life we get to see the beauty and sometimes we get to hold the beauty but we are unable to attain the riches of the meaning of it.  Life doesn’t always go the way we wanted or planned, sometimes it takes a detour and you have no choice but to go with it and it makes you slow down.  It doesn’t seem fair at times, life gets hard and we try not to get harder with it in our spirit, but to look hard at the life around us and take it all in and appreciate it.  We have thoroughly enjoyed our daughter and her family visiting from Colorado and getting to meet my namesake Allya “Rae”.  It is wonderful to see how in synch her parents are in wonderful parenting of their two beautiful children. It was wonderful to have our family together with their little cousins to meet and play together.

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As the richness of the soul gets stronger and more contentment with age so leaves the feeling of having to please everyone and to be your authentic self.  Some never find this.  I find I cannot live without it.

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I have fought cancer and have survived it.     Here in Virginia Beach on March 19th at the Virginia Beach Resort Center they will have a dental community fundraiser for the Oral Cancer Cause Awareness for professionals which we are pleased to attend as VIP’s as invited by Linda Miles to hear Eva Grayzel speak.  I plan on starting a walk through the Oral Cancer Foundation to bring awareness for this cause of Oral Head and Neck Cancer sometime next year in Virginia Beach.

Oral head and neck cancer is the least talked about but the one that needs the most attention. With the funding as well as the awareness of it. People need to be aware of the six step screening process and if not ask your dentist at every visit.  There are children as young as 13 years old getting this due to not knowing or asking.  I have raised awareness with my own family & friends and several have been biopsied already.  It rocks your boat & stirs your pot or shakes your world or jerks your chain, how ever you want to put it.  If dentist and doctors were more aware of the symptoms of this their wouldn’t be so many misdiagnosed cases of this.  It is important to get your dentist to check your mouth thoroughly for a cancer screening and if they don’t do it request it. Catching it early can save your life.  If you have a sore in your mouth near your tonsil it isn’t always related to an infection or a swollen lymph gland.  Be diligent and get it checked out.  This is a revelation.  I had major surgery in May and now have to gear up for chemo treatment to get rid of any rogue cells that may be floating around which is recommended by my tumor board.  I am pleased to say that this is precautionary.  I was told by my oncologist that I am in remission and am cancer free but to have the best long term outcome I will do as the board recommends, I have already endured cyberknife radiation while my daughter was visiting here with us and glad to have that part over with.  With life you never know what will come your way and sometimes you just have to roll with it.  Friends family will come by your side to help although some will totally ignore you or not talk to you.  Trust me as a survivor I think I can speak for us that we would rather you contact us to see how we are instead of ignoring us.  We are not contagious and I have found the only thing I value more than anything else as I have gotten older is kindness.

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This month was my mother in laws 79th birthday as the best present my husband and I could bring her was homemade chicken and dumplings (his grandmother Nanny’s recipe) and some fresh collards out of our garden, along with a puzzle for her enjoyment.  This month also marks my cousin Jay’s 56th birthday, my own 58th birthday, my oldest brothers 72nd birthday, my Uncle Jesse’s 91st birthday, my grandson’s 12th birthday, busy month of birthdays.

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For my 58th birthday I thoroughly enjoyed the Vitamix that my grown kids pitched in to give me as now I am able to  make  delicious nutitrious smoothies with fresh items out of the garden.  It was the perfect gift of love! ❤❤❤

Happy Gardening Til Next Time~❤ Prepare your beds for the fall garden~❤

A nice Article on planting a fall garden the easy way from Mother Earth News:


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“When we acknowledge that all of life is sacred and that each act is an act of choice and therefore sacred, then life is a sacred dance lived consciously each moment. When we live at this level, we participate in the creation of a better world.”ღ✿Scout Cloud Lee

Thank you to my friends and family that have stood by us on this journey~ of healing~☮ ❤ ☼
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Hubby and myself~❤ Rockin out & Flower child years~ ❤~Garden with Kindness~& Love~